Tagged USPolitics and added to the sidebar.

Added link to FLEEP in the post. Please carry on. Edit: also corrected a word in the post as requested by OP.

Please keep in mind that this thread is not about US matters. Please stop derailing the thread.

Made link clickable in this comment.

Your Childhood Pet Rock, please stop the back to back commenting in this thread and let others participate. Further comments will be deleted.

Nothing deleted, but yeah, please do not compare people with cognitive impairments to bullshit machines. The analogy there is always going to upset people and it generates way more heat than light.

Two deleted. If you find yourself repeating the same points over and over again, it might be time to let the thread breathe, just in general.

Made a small correction: Dement -> DeMent in the title and body of the post.

A few back-to-back comments removed. okayturnip, roughly 30% of the comments in this thread are yours and several of them are back to back, please take a step back by letting other members express themselves and carry on with the conversation.

One comment removed. Let's avoid name calling other fellow Mefites.

One deleted. Pseudonymous Cognomen: 90% of your comment was fine but unfortunately you cannot talk to other MeFites the way you did in the other 10%. I'm happy to remove that line and undelete, or send you the text and you can repost without it, or whatever. EDIT: The comment has been restored with the problematic bit removed, in collaboration with the user.

anoldfriend6: "Many people on the internet assume posters on the other side of the screen are straight white men by default. Well, most people here know I’m lesbian. But…am I white, black, or Bhutanese? Who knows?" Somehow i missed this one the other day, and i'm sorry. anoldfriend6, this kind of thing isn't okay; please don't do it. either talk about your own experiences with race or don't, but this kind of "am i white or not?" thing comes across as very edgelordy and gross.

Hi, folks. Some housekeeping notes:

• i made the link in this comment clickable.
• marshmallow tester, one deleted for ableism. blind programmers exist and they tend to have an excellent understanding of both UI and UX. I left up your Flowers for Algernon reference but that too verges on ableism; please be more careful.
• okayturnip's comment was not a personal attack on cortex; it was a joke and i'm leaving it. but folks, just in general, please do be mindful that sometimes tone doesn't come across in text!

Fixed missing word in OP, deleted a comment about the correction.

One comment removed as requested.

One comment and reply to it deleted. Please do not make jokes about gender neutral language, that is not OK.

One deleted. We are not going to turn this thread into a referendum on whether "real men" engage in sexual abuse (they do) or whether girls and women are partly to blame because they like "alphas" (they are not).

Tagged as "USPolitics" and added to sidebar.

Three deleted. ambrosen, it is not okay to speak to or about other community members like that. (One was also deleted as a response to ambrosen's comment, and the third deleted comment was a dupe.) Folks, there's now a MeTa up; if you have complaints about the subject matter of this post, the poster's behavior, or the way we moderate threads in general, those complaints need to go there.

Hey folks! No comments removed so far but just a quick nudge to bring things back on track. The thread is starting to drift into broad generalizations, “all women/all men” takes, extended arguments about Western culture in general, and a few back-and-forths that are not engaging with the article at all. That’s not super useful for anyone trying to discuss the actual topic here. Please refocus on the specifics of the post and let’s keep this thread grounded and in good faith. Further derails and back-and-forth comments picking a fight will need to be removed.

chmmr, please take a break from making back-to-back comments and provide the opportunity for others to engage in the thread. In the future, commenting several times in a row will warrant a deletion of comments. Thanks!

OP edited to put trigger warning above the fold and triggering content below it, at user's request. A few comments about the pre-change state of the post were deleted.

One deleted as noise.

Fixed link in OP and deleted correction comment.

Removed two duplicate comments!

One comment deleted as noise. Seriously, folks, if the presentation (as opposed to the content) of a link bothers you, it's okay to skip it.

Nothing deleted, but MetaFilter is an international site, so yes, there are a lot of people from around the world who comment here; let's not make them feel like exotic animals, please.

Two deleted. Henry Fool, do not be a jerk to other users. (Plus one comment deleted for responding to the deleted comment.)

One comment deleted. "Sometimes misogyny is cool" is not an appropriate sentiment for MetaFilter even when the woman in question is objectively shitty.

Edited link in OP at user's request, and deleted a comment that was strictly about the correction. Also added a link to the ungated content on Skyview. Also, folks, seriously, the first couple comments in a thread do not need to be about how the content is paywalled or account-gated or otherwise inaccessible. Said content is also not against the guidelines to post; you can continue to flag it if it annoys you, but those flags are unlikely to be acted on. It would be good if folks posting Bluesky content remembered to add an (ungated) link to Skyview, but you can also bookmark Skyview and use it yourself.

Folks, please try not to get into a direct back-and-forth/slapfight in the thread, thanks.

Hey, folks, legit information about someone's misdeeds is generally fine in an obit thread; i'm not going to remove it. However, MisantropicPainforest, please do try to keep it contained to a single comment in future, instead of three in a row?

Made a small correction in the post as requestedby OP.

Made link clickable in this comment.

BlackLeotardFront: "Even so, I must say it reads better than yours!" Regardless of the provocation, it's best not to snipe at other users like this. (I know i'm not perfect about this either! Just, please make an effort?)

Folks, nothing deleted, and this isn't a thing that's really addressed in the guidelines as they currently stand, but: i really wish we could, as a community, move away from complaining about stuff like paywalls, video runtimes, and/or Javascript, especially early in a thread. It tends to pick up a bunch of flags and it not-infrequently derails the conversation entirely. If you can't access the links in a post on terms that are acceptable to you, it's okay to just not comment.

Added USPolitics tag and added to the sidebar.

One deleted, poster request.

One deleted, duplicate.

Fixed an issue with the post, at the poster's request.

One comment deleted as noise.

Fixed typo in this comment and removed a comment that only existed to make the correction.

Again, folks, discussion about moderation needs to go to MetaTalk. We'll be deleting any further comments about it from here.

Edited link in this comment to be clickable.

(Also, two deleted: one at the user's request, and the other because it was a reply to the deleted comment and became meaningless without it.)

beesbees: "So if the subject was about a Proctologist in Silicon Valley catering to billionaires, then you couldn't say "What a bunch of assholes"?" Well, just for starters, "assholes" isn't a gendered slur. It is not acceptable to call women "cunts" on MetaFilter. Even if the women are rich shitheads. Even if you're from a Commonwealth country. Even if you do it in a plausibly deniable way with some of the letters replaced with asterisks. It is just not something we're going to allow. If you would like us to change our guidelines and policies around misogynist slurs, that discussion belongs in MetaTalk.

Folks, i'm not going to leave a big hole in the thread with deletions but we are not gonna do jokey usage of misogynist slurs on MetaFilter, even if it's got some letters missing, and even if it's something where you can do the plausible-deniability "oh, but i meant the actual body part!" thing. Paul Slade, that wasn't acceptable; take a break from this thread and don't do this again.

One comment deleted with extreme prejudice. (Replies left up for context.) ianhorse, i'm giving you a day week off; next time you post transphobic or otherwise bigoted nonsense it will be a permaban. ** NOTE: Edited because i said "day" but meant "week", and that's the penalty that was applied.

Ungated link updated. Please carry on.

One deleted at user's request.

Fixed broken link in post.

One comment from Mr. Yuck has been removed. We have identified an ongoing pattern of posting graphic and disturbing personal anecdotes, despite prior moderator guidance on this issue. As a result, Mr. Yuck has been placed on an open-ended timeout and has been notified about it via email.

One deleted. Let's be careful about suggesting that rapists are closet cases and hold off on speculating/suggesting that as the case.

Just a quick note, folks: there are, in fact, people on MetaFilter whose native languages have grammatical gender, and it'd be great if we could avoid casually insulting those languages.

One deleted at user's request.

One comment deleted. Describing a situation involving sexual assault and unsafe supervision in a care setting in a casual, storytelling manner that is not appropriate for a free thread. Content that includes or trivializes harm needs to be handled with care and posted, if at all, in the proper context with clear intent (like seeking advice or support). Additionally, disclosing the name of the victim can do more harm than good, please refrain from doing that. If you need guidance on handling such a situation, consider posting in a dedicated Ask MeFi thread looking for advice or seeking appropriate professional resources

Duplicate comment removed.

One comment deleted. otherchaz, i assume you mean well, but that joke came across as pretty racist!

Fixed link in this comment to be clickable.

Hey, folks, everything's going pretty okay in here so far; i just wanted to drop a note to ask you all to please exercise caution about (a) linking this to transness/trans-related issues (unless you yourself are trans) and (b) verging into body-shaming (including penis size shaming). Both of those things have an extremely high likelihood of causing this conversation to go completely off the rails, and i'd very much rather it didn't.

Fixed a typo in this comment, at user's request, and deleted an extraneous comment about it.

Fixed link in original post (time scrubber was scrubbing to end).

Fixed link in this comment to be clickable.

One comment edited in consultation with the user. In general, folks: it's okay to discuss the possibility that Graham was a closeted gay man, and even to mention the fact that some people called him "Lady G" if you're careful, but directly calling him "Lady G" is not something that's okay here. I understand that this isn't true of everyone, but a whole lot of queer folks regard it as homophobic. (Full disclosure: i'm one of them.)

One deleted. Let’s keep comments focused on the thread’s topic and refrain from making digs at users.

That said, please do not tell members to "shut your bitch ass up" even if you use an abbreviation for plausible deniability. That is emphatically against the guidelines. I'm not going to override the earlier decision by a different mod to let it stand, but please do better in future, folks.

plagued out moggies: "Looks like we’ve had some comments deleted without mod notes?" No comments have been manually removed by moderators in this thread; one comment was automatically deleted because the user in question wiped their account. That's not normally a thing we highlight publicly, but i understand that people were (justifiably) confused about a comment disappearing with no note (i was confused myself, unti i logged into this acccount!) and i thought it wise to head off any derails or grar about it.

Fixed typo in Jessie Gender's name in this comment.

krisjohn: ""How Flock Cameras Wrongly Tracked Me for Days Over ‘Stolen’ Plates and Sent Police After Me", or "The Day I Became a Girls' School In Iran"" This comment seems to have upset some folks, but I confess that I'm not sure i'm seeing what people think is wrong with it? It reads to me as a salient point about the world's embrace of computer-aided surveillance systems which are implicated in both atrocities (and many others!) I absolutely might be missing something, so if anyone would like to flag-with-note or MeMail me, I'm happy to revisit.

Added Substack tag.

flabdablet, you're taking up a lot of space in this thread; please let it breathe a little bit.

Fixed broken link in this comment.

Fixed this comment at user's request.

Removed redundant "more inside" from FPP at user's request.

One more removed. What we're not gonna do is rate the attractiveness of folks who died by suicide.

Fixed typo in post, at user's request.

Several deleted. Folks, regardless of whether you think the original joke was sexist or not, mocking another user for calling it sexist isn't great. Also, discussion about moderation needs to be taken to the Contact Form or to MeTa, not left in the thread, even when you're upset.

One comment removed. Please try to be sensitive to context. Dropping a “you'll eat anything if you're hungry enough” joke into a thread that’s about women’s autonomy, captivity narratives, and sex ends up reading as dehumanizing toward women, even if that wasn’t the intent. In this context it treats sexual access to women’s bodies as a kind of generic need, which is objectifying and dated humour. Let's try to drop the derail and keep the focus on the ideas and history in the linked article instead.

Three comments removed. "Panties in a bunch" is indeed a sexist idiom, whether you mean it that way or not; please refrain from that one, thanks.

One comment removed because the link (to a Reddit post) went dead and it was getting flagged.

Three comments removed. Folks, this post has gotten several flags and the conversation is going to some really ugly places. Please try to remember that your fellow community members, including the ones with suicidal ideation, are reading this. It's 100% fine to be angry at the guy, to be clear (i am too!), but jokes are definitely really fraught in this kind of situation and it would probably be better to Not.

Two comments removed, one for being really aggressive to another member and the other replying to that one. Other replies left up for context. Folks, please try to keep the temperature at a reasonable level in here.

Also, corrected typo in this comment at poster's request. (It's me, i was the poster; it was a one-letter typo and it was driving me bugfuck.)

Hi, folks! Just a note that in general posts like this (where it's basically an organic advertisement) are borderline at best, and they get a lot of flags. The conversation here seems to be going well and i'm going to leave this up, but please don't take it as license to go full-on Pepsi Blue in future.

Hi there, folks. Some housekeeping:

• Compact Mag is horrible, their editorial slant is mega-transphobic, and Michael Tracey specifically is a right-wing rape-apologist goon, so this single-link post really doesn't qualify as Best Of The Web.
• However, the conversation in here is lively and i'm pretty hesitant to nuke the whole thing. If it'd been nuked when there were three comments, that'd be one thing, but there are now over 40, including a lot of pushback on the gross aspects of Compact, Tracey, and the post, and i don't really want to memory-hole it all now?
• On the third hand, i invite someone to start a MeTa to discuss this, because i do think there are site policy issues implicated here!

Fixed spelling of "Philippine" in post

Added "USPolitics" tag at a user's request (not the OP's)