Hey, folks. One deleted. I strongly advise against making blanket statements about strangers 'using trauma as a…wedge'; that's getting into some ugly misogyny-adjacent territory, particularly when said about a woman who is perceived as insufficiently sexual.)

I'm letting everything else stand in here for now, because i think that there's information contained in the back-and-forth that is useful for the asker (for one thing, it is an excellent example of how different people are going to have wildly different reactions to any kind of request related to sex/sexuality). That said, Ask is not a place for talking to (or yelling at) other users; answer the question or take it to MeTa, please.

A couple of comments removed left others as they contain useful advice. Let's try to recenter comments in this Ask around the actual question being asked (recommendations for Bike horns) rather than providing general advice for cyclist and pedestrians.

One comment removed, please try to articulate your answer rather than adding short comments the do not address the question. Please refer to the Ask Guidelines located at the bottom of the Content Policy.

One comment removed, please try to articulate your answer rather than adding two word comments. Please refer to the Ask Guidelines located at the bottom of the Content Policy.

One comment edited and one deleted at poster's request.

One comment deleted. Wrong thread.

One comment deleted at the user's request!

One deleted for not answering the question. The Canadian government website about eligibility doesn't actually contain the in-depth guidance the Asker needs!

One comment deleted. Saying that someone "belongs in a mental institution" is ableist, and doesn't answer the Asker's question.

Highlighting that Adam and Zac's pronouns are He/Him. Please refrain from using other pronouns.

Just an FYI, LOOKING: Feel free to comment if you need to clarify something or add more details, but it's not expected or encouraged to reply to every answer in an Ask thread you've posted!

One comment removed for not being an answer. Ask is not a place for objecting to or commenting about the premise of an Asker's question. When in doubt, please review the Subsite Guidelines for AskMeFi in the Content Policy.

One deleted for noise.

One comment removed, please avoid questioning OP's mental clarity or trying to diagnose them.

Edited this comment by kate4914 to fix the links. Please carry on.

Stop it with the back-and-forths, this is not a place for discussion.

One deleted because it responded to a deleted comment.

One comment removed. Please be considerate and respectful and avoid making snarky comments, OP is looking for advice.

Note that OP uses gender-neutral pronouns to describe their friend. Please be considerate and respectful by respecting the pronouns provided instead of using "s/he" in your response.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

One comment deleted. Please avoid arguing with the OP, instead, please address the main question being asked.

One deleted for noise.

Removed a duplicate comment.

One comment removed. Please read the question carefully before commenting. As OP said: "But I do want more traffic and voices than FanFare's book section"

One non-answer comment removed, as per the Content Policy.

One deleted. Poster’s request.

Hi, one comment has been removed, per the Content Policy, for not answering the question and posting a joke. Please remember that AskMetaFilter is more tightly moderated and comments need to answer the question being asked.

One comment removed. Please refer to the AI Generated Content section of the Content Policy

A comment suggesting the pain may be in the OP's head has been removed.

Take people, especially women, at their word when they say they're in pain.

Hey falsedmitri, the link to that screenshot is borked. If you post it in the thread, I'll fix it in the post.

One deleted. Duplicate.

One comment removed because it simply told the OP to search previous questions, which is not really helpful.

Several comments removed, please stick to the OP's request: "I would appreciate only personal narratives in an answer to this question, not general answers on the nature of alcoholism, addict psychology, or anything of that nature."

stoneandstar: "Just fill out the questions, man, it’s not that hard. You sound very difficult!"

Please focus on helping the OP and avoid berating them, 'cause that rarely works. OP is clearly having difficulties and making them feel worse about the problem they're having can be discouraging.

One comment removed at the writer's request.

Fixed!

Another comment removed for not answering the question. From the Content Policy:

Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked. Jokes, derailing the conversation, ranting, picking a fight or chastising the asker, arguing among commenters, single word comments and other non-answers will probably be removed.

Couple of comments removed for not answering the question.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

One deleted. Poster’s request.

Hey, if your comment includes the words "I will almost certainly get dinged here for unhelpful victim-blaming or finger-wagging or condescension..." make the choice not to comment and move on, or adjust your comment to not be those things.

That comment and a response have been removed.

One comment removed for not really answering the question and getting into weight loss issues, which the OP asked people to avoid in this thread.

Hey OP, if find yourself veering towards suicidal ideation or harming yourself, please check out the ThereIsHelp Wiki page. It’s a list of support resources compiled by volunteer MeFites, so take a look and if you can't find resources near you, feel free to reach out to the mods with your general location and we can post it to the thread so others can help with finding help near you.

Just a reminder that threadsitting is discouraged. Ask MetaFilter is intended to serve as a place to leave your question to be answered by the community, without frequent back-and-forth commenting.

...but I can’t stress enough how much I’m not looking for weight loss tips or advice to lose the weight...]

Hi, mod here, am leaving a note for other mods to keep an eye on this thread. But if such comments do appear, please flag them and please don't hesitate to do so thinking someone else will flag them. Comments with a lot of flags will alert mods, so flag early a

One comment deleted, please refer to the AI Generated Content: section of the content policy.

One deleted. Noise.

One comment removed for not answering the question. This isn't so a question about Korean cuisine.

Hi folks, just a mod note to recommend that people be gentler with those in abusive situations. We know the intention is good, but to those within the situation, the forceful, authoritative tone can feel like a further erosion of their agency and cause the person to shut down or ignore the suggestions, even if they are helpful. Please try to moderate your tone for the person who really needs the help.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

One comment removed for being in the wrong thread.

not_that_epiphanius, if you'd like the text of your comment, feel free to email the mods avia the Contact Us page.

Comment about the GoFundMe Campaign deleted (it is inappropriate for a third party to run a fundraiser for someone else without their permission, and should not be promoted here). Reaching out to the member who set up the fundraiser separately.

One deleted. Comment does not answer the question.

One Deleted. Comment seems to be a typo/noise.

One comment hidden as it was derail, but it was not removed to make the context clear in terms of the OP's response.

OP, and anyone, please read questions carefully and be extremely mindful in giving any weight loss and exercise advice i.e. avoid doing it unless it is specifically requested.

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One deleted. Poster’s request.

Double comments deleted. Poster’s request.

Hey, if your comment starts with "Wow, I know this is off-topic here.." please consider not posting the comment. Ask MetaFilter has stricter guidelines for comments and they need to answer the question.

Comment removed.

Above comment edited to correct a typo that was flagged.

AlexiaSky: "I attempted to link a paper from foodprotection.org but the filter says it contained a slang word so I can't post it."

Hi, please use the Contact US form to email the mods the link to the paper, so we can take a lot at the filter. Thanks!

Moved the last paragraphs below the fold.

One comment removed for not answering the question.

Pedantzilla: "@bluedaisy, I'm not "avoiding" the NYT - they are a garbage paper that is actively working against the American people (not to mention the rest of the world) and you should feel bad about giving them your money, so I am happy to shame you for whatever weak rationalization you want to give."

No one should be reveling in trying to shame anyone on AskMetafilter, knock that off. If you can't, please avoiding commenting.

Comment deleted, relevant parts reproduced in this mod note.

One deleted, poster’s request

Hey, the OP described their partner as 'girlfriend', not wife. No biggie, just noting in the hopes of avoiding confusion the thread.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

mightshould: "The link in the question doesn't work for me…"

Fixed the URL so that it works.

One jokey answer removed,

Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked. Jokes, derailing the conversation, ranting, picking a fight or chastising the asker, arguing among commenters, single word comments and other non-answers will probably be removed.

Hey, big thanks to everyone who gave an answer, please keep in mind that we’re all here to help the OP, so there’s no need to argue with each other about differences in the answers.

Removed several derailing comments about Italian syntax. The OP is just looking for jokes, not a language debate, please just stick to what was being asked.

Some text moved to be inside the post.

One comment deleted, poster’s request.

One comment removed for not answering the question. As noted in the Content Policy:

Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked. Jokes, derailing the conversation, ranting, picking a fight or chastising the asker, arguing among commenters, single word comments and other non-answers will probably be removed.

nebulawindphone: "Jeez, they, not she, sorry -- mods, any chance you can fix that?"

Done!

knile: "Leuchtterm1917 notebooks"

Hey this link is broken and not sure what you meant to link to, maybe this notebook in the yellow? If not, let the mods know and we can update the original link. Edit: now that link is down, even though it was working a second ago! Bottom line, Leuchtturm1917 has notebook similar in color to what the OP was asking for.

Another comment removed for not answering the question.

Reverend John, please avoid adding additional comments to this thread, 'cause there's no need to turn it into a religious debate.

One comment removed for mocking another comment, which violates the Content Policy.

Be kind to others. Answers that others give may not be what you would do or even believe in, but there's not need to mock them for their different beliefs.

One comment removed for bringing ethnicity into the situation where it wasn't needed. By all means share your dissatisfaction with your experience of hiring a housekeeper, but pointing out they were Haitian and a immigrant wasn't relevant to the experience.

If you'd like the repost the comment without those bits, just email the mods and we can send you the text of the comment.

One comment removed for being posted in the wrong thread, no big deal. Mollymillions, I've emailed you the text of the comment if you'd like to post it elsewhere.

OP is asking for help with their smart lock, not for quotes from Scifi stories that predicted this might happen. Please just answer the question or if you don't have an answer, just move on.

AskMe is stricter about content moderation and comments that aren't answering the question are removed.

Beis tote link fixed, thanks for your patience!

One comment (seemingly unrelated to the thread) removed.

These are the films that check the boxes for "laugh until you cry" humor.

Hey, just a reminder that those sorts of films aren't what the OP was asking for. They want to know "What movies start with the main character dying, and then flash back to the life of that character and events leading up to the death?" so please just stick to suggestions along those lines, thanks!

Edited to add: OP of this comment asked for it to be removed in the a.m. EST of 11/29

Hi all. It's great that people are giving suggestions about what to do in the future or to just return the device, but the OP needs help with what's going right now with the current device, so please focus answers on that part of the question to help the OP! No comments have been removed, but again, future comments should focus on what's going on now.

Hi all, one comment has been removed for suggesting hte Monash FODMAP App, which the OP stated in the post that they're already using.