anoldfriend6: commenting this much in your Ask threads is generally discouraged. It's fine to pop in to respond to clarifying questions, but arguing directly with answers is not something you should be doing.

Removed a duplicate comment.

Three deleted. amtho, it's not a good idea to ascribe someone's bad behaviors to neurodivergence. The other comments were deleted for responding to the deleted comment.

Two deleted; answers in Ask must answer the question rather than getting into side conversations with other users (or with mods). If you have an issue with moderation, please take it to MeTa or the contact form.

Two deleted for not answering the question. Further notes:

a) Posting a list of several unvetted internet fax services from an internet search isn't helpful; OP has made clear that they have tried those services and they have not worked.

b) Answers should definitely assume that physically taking records to the office is a nonstarter.

Folks, this question has picked up numerous flags and feedback on the contact form. I'm not choosing to remove it at this time; however, that doesn't mean it's without issues.

anoldfriend6: This question is written in a way that (a) seems deliberately inflammatory and (b) reads as soliciting answers which would be straightforwardly illegal; neither of those are things we encourage on Ask (and (b) is straightforwardly against the rules). Please be more careful in the future. It looks like you have been following along and has selected some best answers for productive ways you can move forward which aren't illegal, however.

Everyone else: please remember that gambling isn't illegal, even if you don't like it or see any moral value in it. If you are unable to view this as a problem to solve within OP's gaming community, consider skipping the thread.

Candleman: i'm not removing this comment, but do be aware that language like "Bob in India" reads to some folks as racist; please work on your phrasing in the future.

One deleted for not answering the question.

One deleted for not answering the question.

One Answer removed as requested by its author.

virve: i fixed the typos in your post and deleted the typo-correction comment!

One comment removed. Please avoid starting a side conversation in response to orther comments. AskMeFi comments should answer the question being asked.

Two comments deleted. (The first was a link to a closed store that also didn't fit the Asker's parameters; the second was a response to the first.)

Another comment deleted. Folks, it's definitely against the guidelines to accuse Askers of having nefarious purposes. If you suspect someone has a nefarious purpose, please flag it with a note; breaking the commenting guidelines isn't helpful.

One deleted as noise.

One deleted. Again, folks, "ask an LLM", much like "just Google it", is not an appropriate answer in Ask under almost any circumstances.

Fixed a typo in this comment.

Fixed a typo in this comment.

One deleted for being hostile and not really answering the question.

One deleted. Anyone who wants to use chatbots for research is already aware that chatbots exist; answers along the lines of "ChatGPT will do this for you" are not materially different from "you can just use Google", which is also obviously a bad answer.

Fixed link in this comment to be clickable.

Fixed link in this comment to be clickable.

One deleted; HearHere, you have been warned multiple times about throwaway answers in Ask, and about answers on subjects where you have no expertise. You're getting a weeklong timeout; the next step is a ban.

Deleted chives' pet tax comment at their request, because the upload site turns out to be kind of dodgy.

Bottlecap: "This does not read that way to me. It just reads like hands. I think you may be getting vibes because of the scheme, which is often associated with kente cloth."

Bottlecap: you are totally not in trouble and this is overall a good answer! However, a user has requested, via flag note, that we clarify that there's a difference between kente (a Ghanaian woven fabric) and kitenge (a wax-print fabric like the one pictured here). And i concur that for reasons of cultural sensitivity, that's a good thing to do, so here we go!

One comment removed, please avoid just posting a link to Goggle search results.

Two deleted. Folks, this is Ask, and you need to answer the question rather than fighting with other commenters.

salad, i am not deleting this comment because the Asker has replied to it directly, but this is not cool—it interrogates the premise of the question, fails to answer the question, and assumes the asker's gender—and you need to not do it again.

One deleted for questioning the premise and not answering the question.

Folks, i understand that many people think the Asker is doing something unethical here; if you are also answering the question it's reasonable to say so, but you can't do that instead of answering.

Two deleted. Folks, please do not argue with the Asker or with each other in Ask.

One deleted for being off-topic, not answering the question, and being potentially triggering. MattD, when you see the words "disordered eating" in an Ask, you really need to not get on your hobbyhorse.

Fixed this comment so the links are clickable.

Also, please do read the clarifying comments from the OP in the thread before posting answers. Nothing is really over the line here, but some of the answers subsequent to those comments do not take into account the OP's clarifications.

One deleted for not actually answering the question. "Have you tried checking out French language baking sites?" is not helpful without, at a minimum, links to some of those websites.

flabdablet, this comment has useful advice, but it's borderline as far as actually answering the question. I'm leaving it up for now, but please be mindful about your framing.

Folks, please be mindful about how much or how little your experience in an entirely different region and jurisdiction will generalize when answering an Asker. I am leaving this comment up because some of the advice is generalizable, but the process of buying a home in Canada is quite different in many respects from the process in the US.

One deleted for not answering the question.

One comment deleted, please let's be sensitive to context and avoid one line drive-by comments, moreover if these are sexist or said ironically.

Fixed links in this comment to be clickable.

One deleted as noise.

Fixed links in post to be clickable.

Another comment deleted, let's remember that AskMeFi comments MUST address the question being asked. If you have another comments about moderation on Ask, please feel free to do so here instead.

Iteki: "What? Cos they're too woke or too chicken to hit you."

This comment is an answer to the Asker's question, and as such i am choosing to leave it, but Iteki, this is both facile and mean. Your answers in Ask are generally quite good; this is unworthy of you.

Folks, just in general, you need to treat the Asker with at least a modicum of compassion and respect or else skip this question.

Fixed pronouns in another answer as agreed with the user.

One (more) deleted -- no arguing with other posters in here.

Folks, with questions like this it can be useful to encourage an Asker to examine their part in the relationship dynamic as part of your answer, but at the same time, you need to be very careful not to shade into victim-blaming. A couple of comments are at least arguably on the wrong side of that. HearHere and Winnie the Proust, please be more mindful.

One deleted. Comments need to answer the question. Non-answers will be deleted.

One comment removed. Please do not mock someone’s question or call it "hilarious".

Fixed pronouns in one of the answers as requested.

Leaving the comment above as it includes useful information, but please, let's stop chastising the OP.

This comment edited to remove a bad link at the user's request; one follow-up comment about the (now gone) bad link deleted.

One removed for not answering the question.

Fixed broken link in this comment.

One deleted as both offensive and a non-answer (it was missed earlier).

One deleted. Please answer the question without derailing the thread. Non answers will be deleted.]<

One deleted. I understand that you were trying to be helpful, HearHere, but this is the sort of question where the answers probably need to be from folks with directly related experience of some kind.

Deleted a duplicate comment.

Just a quick note that people come to Ask for advice from other humans, and "go Google it" or "go ask a chatbot" isn't really the kind of thing that they're generally looking for.

Updated post to fix typo, and removed a comment about the typo.

haptic_avenger: you are tripling down here and it isn't okay. I am leaving your comment because it is not, on its face, bad advice to talk to other parents in one's neighborhood. However, OP has directly addressed your concerns about their neighborhood, and while you are under no obligation to believe them in your heart of hearts, you are required to follow the guidelines for Ask MetaFilter. Please take a break from this thread.

(made link clickable in the post)

Edited this comment to make the link clickable.

One deleted as noise. I am not deleting this comment, because it is potentially useful advice for the future/other people, but i would note that nobody is likely to believe a wedding ring on the hand of a 13-year-old girl is anything other than a prop of some kind and that therefore this isn't really a particularly good answer to this Asker's question.

I also want to note, in general, that while of course there do actually exist bad neighborhoods, the concept in the popular imagination of "bad neighborhood" is a very fraught one and is very often deployed in racist and classist ways. Please exercise caution, and be aware that poor and minoritized men are not, actually, the only or primary perpetrators of street harassment.

The_Vegetables: "Black bean/jicima salad:
Canned black beans, corn, jicama, cilantro, mini bell peppers, and a dressing typically made with olive oil, lime, and cilantro., but it can be left off. Only a tiny bit of dressing is used."

I'm making the executive decision to leave this answer, because it's always been true that posts in Ask are for more than just the Asker. However, the Asker specifically said absolutely no beans; please read the question carefully before you answer it!

Two deleted; one was nonresponsive to the question, and the other was a response to that comment.

Post edited to remove the hijab sentence as agreed with OP. Also deleted the comment addressing it and it's response.

Also, please be considerate and respectful here, OP is going through a difficult situation with their young daughter; so let's not attack his choice of words.

Just a note for transparency: this Ask has gotten flagged multiple times as chatfilter. I don't particularly want to delete it—it's picked up a lot of answers, whatever its shortcomings as a question, and the restrictions on what counts as "chatfilter" have been loosened over the years—but for everyone's future reference, this is way too open-ended to be a good Ask post.

Two deleted: answers must answer the question, and this is not a place for discussion.

One deleted; i don't think that baseless speculation about an elderly gay guy secretly running a cult, a drug dealing business, and/or a glory hole is sufficiently answer-shaped to remain in this thread.

falsedmitri: i've edited the broken link in the post to reflect the link you intended, and deleted the comment which only contained the link.

And one deleted for not answering the question.

Hey knobknosher: i've fixed the links in two of your comments to be clickable. They are otherwise unedited!

One comment deleted as a duplicate.

One deleted; Ask isn't a good place for quippy one-liners that don't answer the question.

One deleted as a duplicate.

(Made link clickable in aramaic's comment.)

One deleted for not answering the question.

One comment removed for not answering the question. Please carry on.

And two more deleted for not answering the question; sorry, missed them on my first go-around!

Two deleted, one for being unnecessarily rude to the asker (without answering the question) and one for replying to that comment.

Hi folks, please remember that engaging in a back-and-forth in Ask is not encouraged. Please leave your answer to OP's question and move on. Please refrain from engaging any further.

Corrected post to redact some personal information, at the user's request.

evilmonk: "you were not safe. he could have hurt or killed you. stop making excuses for him."

This is an answer, and it's not wrong, but it's also profoundly unkind to an Asker who has done nothing to deserve it. Please, folks, in questions that are about abuse, consider being gentler to Askers who are already feeling fragile.

One deleted for both arguing with another answerer and not answering the question as asked.

One deleted as noise.

One comment deleted for continuing to do the thing i said to stop doing (and for not answering the question).

Hi, folks! There's a weird dynamic in here with some of the answers, and i don't love it: several folks have validated the Asker's right to say no, but then gone on to point out that she could in fact say yes instead. This seems to me to be a kind of low-key interrogation of the premise of the question.

I'm leaving all of those up for now, but please note that "well, you could say yes" is not an answer to the question "how can i say no in a way that won't have negative effects on me/my property".

Separately, one comment deleted for not even attempting to answer the question.

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Folks, Ask is not a good place to encourage people to violate the law (many jurisdictions require two-party consent for audio recording) or their employment agreement (which may also prohibit recording, for privacy and security reasons). At the very least, if your answer recommends that people do either of these things, it should be carefully considered and done with very good reasons, and you will need to show your work on that.

I'm not deleting anything out of the thread at this point, but please be mindful.

One deleted. Ask is not a venue for complaining about the subject of the Asker's question.

Spoke too soon: i'd missed a different comment which was not an answer at all; it has been deleted. Please do not quibble with the premise of an Asker's question in order to make a side point.

One deleted for not answering the question. Please do not go off on tangents or post chatty nonresponsive replies in Ask.

I'm not deleting anything, not least because i would have to leave a giant hole in the thread here, but please do not advocate things that are likely to get people in trouble with the cops in Ask. Especially do not do it if you are joking, because, also, please do not post joke answers in Ask.

Whoops, my bad. A second comment was referencing the deleted comment, and i missed it. So i have now deleted that one too. Sorry, all!

Post updated to fix a typo, at the Asker's request.

Hey, folks. Please keep the conversation focused on genuine, non-snarky answers.

One deleted for violating the LLM content policy.

Several comments deleted. Folks, Ask is not a place for attacking the premise of the Asker's question, or getting into the weeds about one's grievances about modern life. Modern life sucks in many ways! But people still have questions irrespective of that fact!