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Several deleted. Things got very chatty and not at all answer-y in here; anoldfriend6 and okayturnip, please take the chatting to MeMail and stick to answers and/or clarifications in Ask, thanks!

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OP asked us to post this comment:

Thank you all for your thoughts. I definitely am getting the sense that legal marital status holds a different level of significance to different people. Talking a bit with my partner I think we both have regrets about not being clearer in our communication. A couple points to clarify:

1. I did not probe deeper into my partner's status because I genuinely thought there was nothing to ask about - I met them on an online platform where you can set your status as single/married/separated, and they were listed as "single". Me saying "I don't really want to know" was more like, I don't like to interrogate my partners about their exes, you know?

2. I am not entirely sure where the assumption from some posters that my partner is male came from, but they do in fact use they/them pronouns.

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Leaving the comment above as it contains sound advice, but let's try to please keep making sure that comments are addressing the question being asked. ]

One comment removed, let's try to please keep Ask MeFi comments on topic and helpful by addressing the question being asked, instead of replying with commentary related to the subject.

Another comment removed, please keep Ask MeFi comments helpful by following the content policy and addressing the question being asked, if you have feedback regarding a mod decision you may post about it in MetaTalk instead.

One deleted. I kind of hated to do it; it clearly represented real effort and an attempt to be helpful on the part of the user who made it, but it didn't really answer the question. If you're the user in question, i'm happy to send you the text if you want to try to rework it some!

One deleted as noise. Folks, i'm not gonna leave a big hole by deleting a ton of stuff, but be advised that this thread has gone … non-optimally in a number of ways.

tara city, you have been pretty hostile about folks asking clarifying questions; it's certainly okay to decline to answer clarifying questions that folks ask, but (a) it'll probably affect the quality of the answers if folks don't feel like they have enough information, and (b) it's not okay to be rude while doing so.

Answerers, please do not be snarky with Askers even when they frustrate you; if you don't feel like you can get a clear enough picture of the problem to answer, it's okay to just not answer; especially in Ask, the optimal behavior here is to flag it and move on.

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One deleted as noise. In general, folks, "join this subreddit" is not a good way to answer an Asker's question. Rather like "Google it" or "ask ChatGPT", it feels dismissive and generally isn't specific enough.

A few comments removed.Please remember that AskMeFi comments should address the question being asked, and please avoid starting and argument with other users.

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One deleted for outright doxxing. I'm also going to be deleting the post, but wanted to leave a mod note about the deleted comment, first.

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Just a note to please be kind to each other and ensure your answers are intended to help OP without making personal digs or insults. Comments leaning into berating OP will be deleted moving forward.

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Hi, folks. Nothing deleted, but please be cautious when responding to questions about people with disabilities; some of these answers are fairly aggressive in a way that can come across as dismissive or mean about someone with a disability.

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One answer deleted as inappropriate. "Do you have a religious faith? Can you become more involved in it?" is a reasonable potential answer, but you need to be careful about asserting that a specific faith will help; it comes across as an attempt to convert.

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One deleted. Folks, even if you are answering the Asker's question it's very seldom that a question calls for rudeness to the Asker. I'm leaving some replies up for context.

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Two deleted for not even trying to answer the question. Folks, it's really chatty in here; please tread carefully and make sure you have some kind of answer (or at least a clarifying question) in addition to commentary!

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Another comment deleted as noise. Folks, this is still Ask, and your comments must answer the Asker's question in some way.

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One deleted for arguing about moderation. Please send an email via the Contact Form or refer it to the MOC if you have an issue!

One deleted as noise. Folks, i get that some things invite jokes but you gotta be really careful in Ask; if you're gonna put a joke in you have to also put an actual answer in.

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Folks, i hate leaving big holes in the conversation, but several comments have been deleted. Jane the Brown, your comment was read by multiple people as equating folks' use of pronoun labeling/sharing on forums with bullying and physical violence. I'm not assuming that it was intentional transphobia, but at best it was extremely unclear, it upset several people, and it was continuing to be a distraction. I can send you the full text if you'd like to try rewriting that bit and reposting; just let me know.

Everyone else: sorry for the delays getting this handled. If your comment also got deleted, it was because it was part of the derail, and you'refine.]

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anoldfriend6: commenting this much in your Ask threads is generally discouraged. It's fine to pop in to respond to clarifying questions, but arguing directly with answers is not something you should be doing.

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Three deleted. amtho, it's not a good idea to ascribe someone's bad behaviors to neurodivergence. The other comments were deleted for responding to the deleted comment.

Two deleted; answers in Ask must answer the question rather than getting into side conversations with other users (or with mods). If you have an issue with moderation, please take it to MeTa or the contact form.

Two deleted for not answering the question. Further notes:

a) Posting a list of several unvetted internet fax services from an internet search isn't helpful; OP has made clear that they have tried those services and they have not worked.

b) Answers should definitely assume that physically taking records to the office is a nonstarter.

Folks, this question has picked up numerous flags and feedback on the contact form. I'm not choosing to remove it at this time; however, that doesn't mean it's without issues.

anoldfriend6: This question is written in a way that (a) seems deliberately inflammatory and (b) reads as soliciting answers which would be straightforwardly illegal; neither of those are things we encourage on Ask (and (b) is straightforwardly against the rules). Please be more careful in the future. It looks like you have been following along and has selected some best answers for productive ways you can move forward which aren't illegal, however.

Everyone else: please remember that gambling isn't illegal, even if you don't like it or see any moral value in it. If you are unable to view this as a problem to solve within OP's gaming community, consider skipping the thread.

Candleman: i'm not removing this comment, but do be aware that language like "Bob in India" reads to some folks as racist; please work on your phrasing in the future.

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virve: i fixed the typos in your post and deleted the typo-correction comment!

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Two comments deleted. (The first was a link to a closed store that also didn't fit the Asker's parameters; the second was a response to the first.)

Another comment deleted. Folks, it's definitely against the guidelines to accuse Askers of having nefarious purposes. If you suspect someone has a nefarious purpose, please flag it with a note; breaking the commenting guidelines isn't helpful.

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One deleted. Again, folks, "ask an LLM", much like "just Google it", is not an appropriate answer in Ask under almost any circumstances.

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One deleted. Anyone who wants to use chatbots for research is already aware that chatbots exist; answers along the lines of "ChatGPT will do this for you" are not materially different from "you can just use Google", which is also obviously a bad answer.