Edited archive link in OP and deleted two comments about the correction.

Yeah, i'm not going to re-delete it, but let's not continue with the military derail, please.

One deleted; wrong thread.I misread something badly; i've restored the comment. Sorry, Paul Slade!

Also, folks, the "how people are treated" derail should either stop or go elsewhere.

Added Substack tag, and one comment deleted. Folks, Pangram is more accurate than other "AI" detectors, but it's less accurate on this kind of very formal writing than it is on other kinds of writing, because this kind of thing is overrepresented in the training corpus. Philosophers, in particular, are trained to write like this. So i don't know if the content at this link is "AI" or not. And while i personally hate "AI", the community keeps making it pretty clear that they're not thrilled about every discussion getting derailed by that question. If you must say something, please keep it to one comment; but in general, the better practice is probably to flag it to our attention and/or just not engage with the post.

One deleted; we do not need to relitigate the 2024 US election in a thread that's primarily about Canada.

Fixed broken markup in OP and deleted a comment about the correction.

One comment deleted at user's request, and a second comment deleted because the user was under the mistaken impression that this is an obit thread (Felicia Day is not dead!) Also fixed the spelling of Patton Oswalt's name in this comment.

Fixed typo in OP.

anoldfriend6: "lol women users fighting on the interwebs, rawr"

Sorry for the delay in responding to this, folks; mod coverage is light on Fridays. To be clear, this is completely unacceptable and it needs to not happen again, anoldfriend6.

One comment deleted at user's request. I've added the "AI" tag to this post so folks who want to skip this kind of thing entirely have the tools to do so. Also, folks, this comment has gotten flagged a few times for being LLM-generated, and it's definitely true that part of it is, but that part is directly quoted from the linked source, which is currently a weird gray area. hankscorpio83, you're not in trouble! But it'd be good if in the future you would use the <blockquote> tag or otherwise make clearer that you are quoting content from elsewhere, especially if that content bears the hallmarks of being generated by an LLM.

One deleted for not answering the question.

Thanks, DoT! I've edited my previous mod note to reflect correct information. (Folks have definitely been using both)

One comment deleted as noise. It's fine to think something sucks but you gotta talk about why.

Just a quick note that Jane Schoenbrun is a "she", not a "they", and it's especially important to be careful about pronouns when talking about trans folks because they get misgendered and degendered all the time. It was clearly unintentional and i'm going to leave it, but i did want to remind folks to use care! Okay, apparently i am wrong (thanks DoT) and Schoenbrun does in fact use they/them pronouns! So i'm a shining example of my own mod note here; sorry, folks. (A number of other people do use "she" in the thread, so my point stands that we need to be careful! But i am sorry for having failed to double-check the details.)

Hi, folks. Just to reiterate in an official capacity: we do in fact have policy on this. You should not use "AI" to write your posts or comments, and if you feel it's absolutely necessary to do so, you must label that content. (The relevant section of the Content Policy is here.)

Obviously we don't actually have a magic way to detect every use of "AI" for posts and comments on this site. We're on the honor system, and you can probably get away with it, at least some of the time. But choosing that path means that you are deliberately deceiving your fellow community members. It is disrespectful and gross; people are definitely going to be mad if and when they discover it, and you will fully deserve that anger.

Fixed a typo in this comment.

Several deleted. Things got very chatty and not at all answer-y in here; anoldfriend6 and okayturnip, please take the chatting to MeMail and stick to answers and/or clarifications in Ask, thanks!

Fixed link in this comment and deleted a follow-up about the error.

Fixed broken link in OP!

Fixed a typo in the OP

Fixed link in this comment.

One deleted for not answering the question. If you'd like to ask a related question, it's fine to make a new post on Ask for yourself!

Fixed broken link in this comment.

Fixed typo in OP.

Fixed post to be "Show Only" so that the episodes connect up.

Fixed typo in post title/URL

One deleted for not answering the question.

Two deleted. Ideefixe, this is the second comment of yours i've seen today where you seem to be trying to bait people into a fight about racial justice issues. Knock it off; the next one gets you a timeout. (sickos, you're fine, your comment was deleted because it was a direct reply to the other one.)

Removed a comment referencing Rachel Dolezal that was absolutely going to start an irrelevant fight.

Added an archive link to the OP, in consultation with the user. Again, folks, it is not against the guidelines to link to social media, and complaining about it (especially in the first few comments) drags down threads and irritates people. If you cannot access a link for whatever reason, it's totally fine to skip a post!

Hi, folks. Many things in this thread are being flagged. One comment has been deleted for being callous; i've also added a "suicide" tag to the post. A couple notes for the conversation more broadly:

• Suicide is a very fraught topic in general, and this incident is particularly ugly for many reasons; please be very aware that conversations like this can trigger or exacerbate suicidal ideation in your fellow community members, and exercise care in making your points.
• If you are struggling with depression or suicidal ideation, we do have a page on the wiki with mental health and suicide-prevention resources. Please, do not damage yourself for the sake of this thread, and ask for help if you need it.
• The pushback on the framing of the post is very valuable, and i am letting it stand (sickos, thank you in particular for being vigilant here). I do think the point has been made and further discussion about it should probably go to MeTa.

Fixed typo in this comment.

One deleted as noise.

One deleted at user's request.

Folks, i'm not going to delete anything right now, because i'd have to leave giant holes in the thread, but conversation about people who have buttoned is absolutely off-topic here and needs to go to MeTa if you want to continue it.

One comment deleted at the user's request.

Deleted a comment that related to a now-fixed error in OP.

Added to USPolitics sidebar. Also, one comment deleted as noise.

Added Substack tag; edited links to be clickable in this comment and this comment.

One deleted at user's request.

Edited OP to add Matchmaker link, and removed a comment about the change.

OP asked us to post this comment:

Thank you all for your thoughts. I definitely am getting the sense that legal marital status holds a different level of significance to different people. Talking a bit with my partner I think we both have regrets about not being clearer in our communication. A couple points to clarify:

1. I did not probe deeper into my partner's status because I genuinely thought there was nothing to ask about - I met them on an online platform where you can set your status as single/married/separated, and they were listed as "single". Me saying "I don't really want to know" was more like, I don't like to interrogate my partners about their exes, you know?

2. I am not entirely sure where the assumption from some posters that my partner is male came from, but they do in fact use they/them pronouns.

Made link clickable in this comment.

Made link clickable in this comment.

Duplicate comment removed.

Nothing deleted, but yeah, please do not compare people with cognitive impairments to bullshit machines. The analogy there is always going to upset people and it generates way more heat than light.

Two deleted. If you find yourself repeating the same points over and over again, it might be time to let the thread breathe, just in general.

One deleted. Pseudonymous Cognomen: 90% of your comment was fine but unfortunately you cannot talk to other MeFites the way you did in the other 10%. I'm happy to remove that line and undelete, or send you the text and you can repost without it, or whatever. EDIT: The comment has been restored with the problematic bit removed, in collaboration with the user.

One deleted. I kind of hated to do it; it clearly represented real effort and an attempt to be helpful on the part of the user who made it, but it didn't really answer the question. If you're the user in question, i'm happy to send you the text if you want to try to rework it some!

anoldfriend6: "Many people on the internet assume posters on the other side of the screen are straight white men by default. Well, most people here know I’m lesbian. But…am I white, black, or Bhutanese? Who knows?" Somehow i missed this one the other day, and i'm sorry. anoldfriend6, this kind of thing isn't okay; please don't do it. either talk about your own experiences with race or don't, but this kind of "am i white or not?" thing comes across as very edgelordy and gross.

Hi, folks. Some housekeeping notes:

• i made the link in this comment clickable.
• marshmallow tester, one deleted for ableism. blind programmers exist and they tend to have an excellent understanding of both UI and UX. I left up your Flowers for Algernon reference but that too verges on ableism; please be more careful.
• okayturnip's comment was not a personal attack on cortex; it was a joke and i'm leaving it. but folks, just in general, please do be mindful that sometimes tone doesn't come across in text!

One deleted as noise. Folks, i'm not gonna leave a big hole by deleting a ton of stuff, but be advised that this thread has gone … non-optimally in a number of ways.

tara city, you have been pretty hostile about folks asking clarifying questions; it's certainly okay to decline to answer clarifying questions that folks ask, but (a) it'll probably affect the quality of the answers if folks don't feel like they have enough information, and (b) it's not okay to be rude while doing so.

Answerers, please do not be snarky with Askers even when they frustrate you; if you don't feel like you can get a clear enough picture of the problem to answer, it's okay to just not answer; especially in Ask, the optimal behavior here is to flag it and move on.

Fixed missing word in OP, deleted a comment about the correction.

One deleted as noise.

One duplicate comment removed.

One deleted. We are not going to turn this thread into a referendum on whether "real men" engage in sexual abuse (they do) or whether girls and women are partly to blame because they like "alphas" (they are not).

Tagged as "USPolitics" and added to sidebar.

Three deleted. ambrosen, it is not okay to speak to or about other community members like that. (One was also deleted as a response to ambrosen's comment, and the third deleted comment was a dupe.) Folks, there's now a MeTa up; if you have complaints about the subject matter of this post, the poster's behavior, or the way we moderate threads in general, those complaints need to go there.

OP edited to put trigger warning above the fold and triggering content below it, at user's request. A few comments about the pre-change state of the post were deleted.

One deleted as noise.

Fixed link in OP and deleted correction comment.

One deleted as noise.

Removed two duplicate comments!

One comment deleted as noise. Seriously, folks, if the presentation (as opposed to the content) of a link bothers you, it's okay to skip it.

One deleted as noise. In general, folks, "join this subreddit" is not a good way to answer an Asker's question. Rather like "Google it" or "ask ChatGPT", it feels dismissive and generally isn't specific enough.

Nothing deleted, but MetaFilter is an international site, so yes, there are a lot of people from around the world who comment here; let's not make them feel like exotic animals, please.

Two deleted. Henry Fool, do not be a jerk to other users. (Plus one comment deleted for responding to the deleted comment.)

One comment deleted. "Sometimes misogyny is cool" is not an appropriate sentiment for MetaFilter even when the woman in question is objectively shitty.

Edited link in OP at user's request, and deleted a comment that was strictly about the correction. Also added a link to the ungated content on Skyview. Also, folks, seriously, the first couple comments in a thread do not need to be about how the content is paywalled or account-gated or otherwise inaccessible. Said content is also not against the guidelines to post; you can continue to flag it if it annoys you, but those flags are unlikely to be acted on. It would be good if folks posting Bluesky content remembered to add an (ungated) link to Skyview, but you can also bookmark Skyview and use it yourself.

Added "Show Only" as the discussion type to help with navigation from other eps.

Folks, please try not to get into a direct back-and-forth/slapfight in the thread, thanks.

Edited this comment in consultation with the user.

Hey, folks, legit information about someone's misdeeds is generally fine in an obit thread; i'm not going to remove it. However, MisantropicPainforest, please do try to keep it contained to a single comment in future, instead of three in a row?

Edited link in this comment to be clickable.

One deleted for outright doxxing. I'm also going to be deleting the post, but wanted to leave a mod note about the deleted comment, first.

Two deleted for not answering the question.

phunniemee: "I feel compelled to mention the Jobs post wasn't as ugly in preview, but mean ol Metafilter stripped out my html upon posting. C'est la vie, don't @ me. (Unless you're applying to be our Community Operations Manager, in which case please @ me!)"

I have cleaned up the HTML in the jobs post so it's less ugly now!

Made link clickable in this comment.

BlackLeotardFront: "Even so, I must say it reads better than yours!" Regardless of the provocation, it's best not to snipe at other users like this. (I know i'm not perfect about this either! Just, please make an effort?)

Folks, nothing deleted, and this isn't a thing that's really addressed in the guidelines as they currently stand, but: i really wish we could, as a community, move away from complaining about stuff like paywalls, video runtimes, and/or Javascript, especially early in a thread. It tends to pick up a bunch of flags and it not-infrequently derails the conversation entirely. If you can't access the links in a post on terms that are acceptable to you, it's okay to just not comment.

Anonymized post at user's request

Fixed an issue with the post, at the poster's request.

Okay, i have talked to frimble and apparently there's some institutional knowledge that didn't get transmitted to me (and possibly to other mods as well). There are actually two separate things going on here, and i had been under the impression that they were the same thing: Adding the "USPolitics" tag to a post allows it to be hidden using the "hide US politics" toggle. However, adding a post to the sidebar and actually hiding it does have to be done manually. I'll bear this in mind going forward and make sure the rest of the mods know this as well.

For the record: this should be happening automatically based on the tag these days; it should not require a manual setting by a mod anymore. And I'm seeing those two posts hidden when I log in with my normal account and toggle "hide US Politics". But out of an abundance of caution, I have also gone ahead and hidden them manually.

Made link clickable in this comment.

One comment deleted as noise.

Fixed typo in this comment and removed a comment that only existed to make the correction.

Again, folks, discussion about moderation needs to go to MetaTalk. We'll be deleting any further comments about it from here.

Folks, please do not get into a slapfight with each other in here.

Edited link in this comment to be clickable.

(Also, two deleted: one at the user's request, and the other because it was a reply to the deleted comment and became meaningless without it.)

beesbees: "So if the subject was about a Proctologist in Silicon Valley catering to billionaires, then you couldn't say "What a bunch of assholes"?" Well, just for starters, "assholes" isn't a gendered slur. It is not acceptable to call women "cunts" on MetaFilter. Even if the women are rich shitheads. Even if you're from a Commonwealth country. Even if you do it in a plausibly deniable way with some of the letters replaced with asterisks. It is just not something we're going to allow. If you would like us to change our guidelines and policies around misogynist slurs, that discussion belongs in MetaTalk.

Folks, i'm not going to leave a big hole in the thread with deletions but we are not gonna do jokey usage of misogynist slurs on MetaFilter, even if it's got some letters missing, and even if it's something where you can do the plausible-deniability "oh, but i meant the actual body part!" thing. Paul Slade, that wasn't acceptable; take a break from this thread and don't do this again.