One comment removed, its responses left for context. Let's try to be sensitive to context by avoiding holocaust comparisons here.

One comment removed for not answering the question. Please carry on.

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Just chiming in to suggest we drop the Billy Joel derail, the point has been made.

A couple of comments removed left others as they contain useful advice. Let's try to recenter comments in this Ask around the actual question being asked (recommendations for Bike horns) rather than providing general advice for cyclist and pedestrians.

One comment removed, please try to articulate your answer rather than adding short comments the do not address the question. Please refer to the Ask Guidelines located at the bottom of the Content Policy.

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URL in the post has been fixed. Please carry on.]

No comments deleted. While it is OK to disagree and speak in critical terms, please try to do so in a way that engages with the post rather than calling it "fucking stupid".

Edited the URL Description as the long URL was breaking the view of the front page

Redacted a few errors as requested.

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One comment removed, please avoid questioning OP's mental clarity or trying to diagnose them.

Fixed the USPolitics tag. Please carry on.

I'm going to close this thread. Threads that ask “why haven’t mods addressed this?” or invite general discussion of site issues are fine, but framing a post around one specific user and labeling them a “missing stair” while making assumptions about their state of mind is ableist and inapropriate. If you want to talk about trends or problems you see on the site, please start a new MetaTalk post that focuses on the behaviors and patterns you’re concerned about rather than creating a pile‑on around a single member.

One comment deleted, let's avoid "that's what she said" jokes, those are pretty dated and sexist.

Made a few adjustment to the post, as agreed with OP:

• Changed the text to reflect the nonspeaking/nonverbal difference, as pointed in the first comment.

• Changed the name in the title from Anna Stubblefield to Jayson Blair as she was convicted of raping a man with severe cerebral palsy. ]

One comment removed. Please be considerate and respectful and avoid making snarky comments, OP is looking for advice.

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The second comment by grokus has now been deleted. Folks were, rightfully, flagging it again today and I see no reason to keep such an offensive comment up. His original comment is still there, but as travelingthyme said, please let us know if deletions feel more productive .

Note that OP uses gender-neutral pronouns to describe their friend. Please be considerate and respectful by respecting the pronouns provided instead of using "s/he" in your response.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Title and part of the post removed as per OP's request above.

One comment deleted. Please avoid arguing with the OP, instead, please address the main question being asked.

Just a quick note to acknowledge that chmmr has apologized for making this post and there have been some flags and comments asking for this thread to be closed. After talking it over with the board, we’ve decided to keep the thread open. MetaTalk is here for the community to have the conversations it wants to have, and we feel that closing the thread would cut off a conversation that people clearly do want to have. Let’s try to keep this conversation productive and empathetic.

Moved text below the fold as it was breaking the mobile display text wrap on the front page.

One comment removed. Please read the question carefully before commenting. As OP said: "But I do want more traffic and voices than FanFare's book section"

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I've deleted the whole "BDSM is a Thing" derail. This is a serious discussion about a sensitive subject, so please Be sensitive to context. CynicalKnight please take a step back and let the thread move on.

One comment deleted, please refer to the AI Generated Content: section of the content policy.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Comment about the GoFundMe Campaign deleted (it is inappropriate for a third party to run a fundraiser for someone else without their permission, and should not be promoted here). Reaching out to the member who set up the fundraiser separately.

did anyone reach out to the poster to ask them if they had used generative AI to create the question and ask them to repost, as a courtesy?

Yup, I sent them an email explaining the decision more in detail and pointing out to the relevant guidelines.

Fixed links in the original post.

One comment and it's replies deleted. Let's avoid doomsday predictions.

One comment removed. This is not the thread to rehash the 2024 election.

Moved the last paragraphs below the fold.

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. Just a reminder that this is a post about a developing situation. This will deserve a proper obituary post as more details are made available, but in the meantime, can we avoid speculating about what happened, who did it, their motive, and more importantly, about the mental health of the people involved?

One comment removed. Let's avoid sexist comments, saying "she was basically asking for it" is definitely against our Content Policy

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One comment removed. Let's avoid speculating about someone's sexual abuse history. This is inappropriate and considered against our guidelines.

One comment removedas requested. Also, happy Birthday, loquacious!

Changed Charlottesville, VA to Charlotte, NC.

One comment removed. Let's avoid unhelpful/non-answer comments like "They're all bullshit."

Two comments removed. Please do not promote piracy or any other illegal activity here. Also, Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked so, please do not comment just to start an argument with other user.

One comment removed, please refer to the Ask MetaFilter section of the content policy. Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked and Jokes derailing the conversation will probably be removed.

Noting that the terms "transmale" and "transfemale" are considered problematic because these are medicalizing terms associated with Trans-Exclusionary views. The preferred the terms are "trans man/woman" or "transgender man/woman". I've reached out to the member in question and edited the comment with their permission.

1. Is Metafilter policy, "do not say 'Fuck x' where x is anyone."

Yes, in most cases. Allow me to explain, historically there has been no prohibition on non-hateful cursing into the void on the site, but cursing at another person (be it a member, staff, or other people). However, we always try to lean towards leniency, there are exceptions when it comes to public persons, and the subject at hand. Saying fuck [x] in an obituary post about said person is not the same as in a post about their work, or some terrible thing they have done, and even then there are, and will be exceptions.

Admittedly, that mod note, could have used more context. On top of the name calling it was early threadshitting and also a potential derail. Now, if there's a desire to set policies that are clearer and less obscure in their application, that is something I think we all support and can work towards with the new board once seated.

Just coming to clarify because this comment is getting flagged: Actually, saying "fuck someone" does fall under the "Be considerate and respectful" section of the guidelines and the "Name calling" section of the content policy.
However, this is also why we maintain lighter moderation on MetaTalk; it's the place where you can voice concerns, frustrations, and disagreements freely. So while this does technically go against our guidelines, we're probably not going to delete it.
That said, we do hope members can keep in mind that the people being called out here are fellow community members volunteering their time to help.

One comment removed. Cursing on the site is fine, but cursing at someone else is not okay as per the Content Policy.

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No comments removed as MetaTalk has slightly lighter moderation, but please let's avoid calling other members names (dick, in this instance).

Several commens removed and one ban issued. Please don't attack other members.

Several comments removed. Please do not start an argument with other users and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

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2 comments removed as requested.

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Several comments addressing the Oct. 7th derail mentioned in the previous mod note removed (including the original two comments). One left for context. Let's please focus on the post at hand and avoid derailing the conversation.

No comments deleted but let's avoid a derail about the date itself.

A few comments deleted. Let's try to keep this conversation productive by avoiding Ad hominem attacks so please stop calling other members trolls or telling them to STFU. Also, let's avoid calls to have anyone locked up.

One comment removed, there's no need to call OP's curiosity bigoted. Also, Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

One comment deleted. Please avoid starting an argument with the OP, Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Title updated, thank you for reporting it.

Comment replying to the deleted comments removed as requested.

A few comments against the guidelines removed. Please do not call other users trolls. But more importantly: Speak for yourself, not others: Let's avoid downplaying the importance of race, specially in a thread about Black representation. As the guidelines say, avoid speaking on behalf of other people and discussing their experience like an academic topic; invite them to speak for themselves instead!

One comment deleted. Please avoid arguing with other people's answers, ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

No comments deleted but let's avoid picking a fight with specific members. This is a personal subject where everybody has a different lived experience so, please allow others to express themselves.

Yup, definitely Newsfilter.

Two comments deleted. Please avoid going back an forth with other users and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Geez... Several comments deleted. Left some of the responses for context. Please refresh if needed. kschang, please take a step back and stop commenting on this thread. Genocide-denial doesn't have a place here on Metafilter, so please stop.

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Several comments deleted. As Brandon pointed out, name calling goes against the Content Guidelines but moreover, Press Butt.on to Check and Pseudonymous Cognomen please take a step back and let the conversation move on without your participation, this is not a thread for you to pick a fight with one another.

Two comments removed. Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

One comment deleted. As per the content policy: do not query ChatGPT or other LLMs and then post the output unless the discussion itself is about those types of tools