Whoops, my bad. A second comment was referencing the deleted comment, and i missed it. So i have now deleted that one too. Sorry, all!

At the poster's request, i have made a small edit to make the post less US-centric.

Post updated to fix a typo, at the Asker's request.

Hey, folks. Please keep the conversation focused on genuine, non-snarky answers.

One deleted for violating the LLM content policy.

Several comments deleted. Folks, Ask is not a place for attacking the premise of the Asker's question, or getting into the weeds about one's grievances about modern life. Modern life sucks in many ways! But people still have questions irrespective of that fact!

Hey, folks. One deleted. I strongly advise against making blanket statements about strangers 'using trauma as a…wedge'; that's getting into some ugly misogyny-adjacent territory, particularly when said about a woman who is perceived as insufficiently sexual.)

I'm letting everything else stand in here for now, because i think that there's information contained in the back-and-forth that is useful for the asker (for one thing, it is an excellent example of how different people are going to have wildly different reactions to any kind of request related to sex/sexuality). That said, Ask is not a place for talking to (or yelling at) other users; answer the question or take it to MeTa, please.

Just chiming in to suggest we drop the Billy Joel derail, the point has been made.

A couple of comments removed left others as they contain useful advice. Let's try to recenter comments in this Ask around the actual question being asked (recommendations for Bike horns) rather than providing general advice for cyclist and pedestrians.

One comment removed, please try to articulate your answer rather than adding short comments the do not address the question. Please refer to the Ask Guidelines located at the bottom of the Content Policy.

One comment removed, please try to articulate your answer rather than adding two word comments. Please refer to the Ask Guidelines located at the bottom of the Content Policy.

URL in the post has been fixed. Please carry on.]

One comment edited and one deleted at poster's request.

One comment deleted. Wrong thread.

One comment deleted at the user's request!

No comments deleted. While it is OK to disagree and speak in critical terms, please try to do so in a way that engages with the post rather than calling it "fucking stupid".

Folks, just a quick note: this post has picked up a number of flags, as have some of the comments. The article may be LLM-generated (or at least LLM-assisted), but the post itself is fine and the conversation seems to be going alright, so i'm not deleting anything. But please continue to keep things on-rails and at least vaguely on-topic. Thanks!

One deleted for not answering the question. The Canadian government website about eligibility doesn't actually contain the in-depth guidance the Asker needs!

One comment deleted. Saying that someone "belongs in a mental institution" is ableist, and doesn't answer the Asker's question.

One deleted at user request!

Highlighting that Adam and Zac's pronouns are He/Him. Please refrain from using other pronouns.

One deleted at the user's request!

Hey there, this is a near-double of Wordshore's post from last week, and the conversation there is ongoing, so i'm going to go ahead and delete this. I do encourage continuing the conversation over there, and particularly bringing up hauntology, which i think is an important lens on BoC's aesthetic!

This isn't a huge deal or anything, but please do not snipe at other users unnecessarily, thx.

Just an FYI, LOOKING: Feel free to comment if you need to clarify something or add more details, but it's not expected or encouraged to reply to every answer in an Ask thread you've posted!

Fixed the formatting in Thivaia 2.0's comment!

Edited the URL Description as the long URL was breaking the view of the front page

Fixed the diacritic in the post title from â to ā and made links clickable

Fixed typo in post title! Please carry on!

Typo and post link have been fixed.

Redacted a few errors as requested.

One comment removed for not being an answer. Ask is not a place for objecting to or commenting about the premise of an Asker's question. When in doubt, please review the Subsite Guidelines for AskMeFi in the Content Policy.

Hi folks! Just a reminder: while the right-wing politics machine is global and all of these things are interconnected, we would definitely like to keep things in this thread focused on Hungary and the Hungarian election rather than recentering it around US politics and elections. You can definitely mention US-related stuff -- JD Vance was particularly important in this election, and that's definitely on-topic! -- but be mindful of the space you're taking up, please.

One comment removed as requested.

Link fixed!

Removed that duplicate paragraph from the post, and added "AI" and "LLM" tags while I was at it.

One deleted for noise.

One comment removed, please avoid questioning OP's mental clarity or trying to diagnose them.

Just a note to reiterate what I said in the other related MeTa thread: please do not imply that other members are mentally unwell. Saying "you need therapy" is not generally gonna be received well, and it very quickly crosses over into ableism/sanism.

Edited this comment by kate4914 to fix the links. Please carry on.

Hey, a quick note: it's really not appropriate to imply that other members are mentally unstable or tell them to "get help". If you're genuinely concerned about someone's welfare, that's certainly something you can convey in a compassionate way, but please do it without crossing the line into ableism/sanism.

A personal note: I am still in training and this is my first semi-independent mod note; i do welcome feedback but also please bear with me while i get the hang of things!

Fixed the USPolitics tag. Please carry on.

I'm going to close this thread. Threads that ask “why haven’t mods addressed this?” or invite general discussion of site issues are fine, but framing a post around one specific user and labeling them a “missing stair” while making assumptions about their state of mind is ableist and inapropriate. If you want to talk about trends or problems you see on the site, please start a new MetaTalk post that focuses on the behaviors and patterns you’re concerned about rather than creating a pile‑on around a single member.

Stop it with the back-and-forths, this is not a place for discussion.

Deleted one: wrong thread.

HearHere, please step away from this thread. You are not participating in good faith and are causing derails in a thread meant for the BIPOC board and users to discuss important topics.

I like those Mathematical Alphanumeric Symbols, but they tend to wreak havoc with screen readers and end up not aiding accessibility much at all. So being the fun police I took the liberty of replacing them with your garden variety ASCII italics. Sorry about that.

Well spotted glonous keming, fixed.

Removed a duplicate comment.

One comment deleted, let's avoid "that's what she said" jokes, those are pretty dated and sexist.

Deleted one, wrong thread.

One deleted because it responded to a deleted comment.

Made a few adjustment to the post, as agreed with OP:

• Changed the text to reflect the nonspeaking/nonverbal difference, as pointed in the first comment.

• Changed the name in the title from Anna Stubblefield to Jayson Blair as she was convicted of raping a man with severe cerebral palsy. ]

One comment removed. Please be considerate and respectful and avoid making snarky comments, OP is looking for advice.

No worries Kitteh, edited.

One deleted: poster's request.

One deleted. Please keep this thread on track. Let’s focus on uplifting Trans people, sharing accomplishments and achievements, etc. derails will be deleted.

One comment removed as requested.

The second comment by grokus has now been deleted. Folks were, rightfully, flagging it again today and I see no reason to keep such an offensive comment up. His original comment is still there, but as travelingthyme said, please let us know if deletions feel more productive .

One deleted. Poster's request.

One deleted. Poster's request.

I've reached out to OP about a re-wording the post to address the feedback given in the comments, stay tuned.

I've reached out to OP about a re-wording the post to address the feedback given in the comments, stay tuned.

Comments left up for transparency, but if deletions feel more productive, please do let us know. The two users making Transphobic comments will be permanently banned and not let back in. This type of behavior is not allowed. Re-centering the conversation to share their Transphobic comments, de-centering Trans people who are impacted by this discussion most, and sealioning will never be tolerated. Guidelines for reference.

Note that OP uses gender-neutral pronouns to describe their friend. Please be considerate and respectful by respecting the pronouns provided instead of using "s/he" in your response.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Title and part of the post removed as per OP's request above.

One comment deleted. Please avoid arguing with the OP, instead, please address the main question being asked.

Just a quick note to acknowledge that chmmr has apologized for making this post and there have been some flags and comments asking for this thread to be closed. After talking it over with the board, we’ve decided to keep the thread open. MetaTalk is here for the community to have the conversations it wants to have, and we feel that closing the thread would cut off a conversation that people clearly do want to have. Let’s try to keep this conversation productive and empathetic.

One deleted for noise.

Moved text below the fold as it was breaking the mobile display text wrap on the front page.

Removed a duplicate comment.

One comment removed. Please read the question carefully before commenting. As OP said: "But I do want more traffic and voices than FanFare's book section"

One non-answer comment removed, as per the Content Policy.

One deleted. Poster’s request.

Title fixed!

Fixed!

One deleted: wrong thread.

After review by the Moderation Oversight Committee, the comments by cendawanita, gwint, and others have been reinstated.

Removed a trolling comment by cendawanita and a bunch of responses from gwint and others about the US and South Korea that was a derail. Please move on y'all. EDITED TO ADD: Those comments have been reinstated after a decision by the Moderation Oversight Committee--BB 10:23pm ET 3/4/2026

Hi, one comment has been removed, per the Content Policy, for not answering the question and posting a joke. Please remember that AskMetaFilter is more tightly moderated and comments need to answer the question being asked.

Hey, this is a general mod note to y'all to be careful with your analogies and how far you stretch them. It can cause a lot of derails and needlessly raise the temperature of the thread, so think'em through please!