A few comments removed.Please remember that AskMeFi comments should address the question being asked, and please avoid starting and argument with other users.

Added "Show Only" as the discussion type to help with navigation from other eps.

Folks, please try not to get into a direct back-and-forth/slapfight in the thread, thanks.

Edited this comment in consultation with the user.

Hey, folks, legit information about someone's misdeeds is generally fine in an obit thread; i'm not going to remove it. However, MisantropicPainforest, please do try to keep it contained to a single comment in future, instead of three in a row?

Edited link in this comment to be clickable.

One deleted for outright doxxing. I'm also going to be deleting the post, but wanted to leave a mod note about the deleted comment, first.

Two deleted for not answering the question.

Made the links in NotLost's comment above clickable. Please carry on.

Made a small correction in the post as requestedby OP.

phunniemee: "I feel compelled to mention the Jobs post wasn't as ugly in preview, but mean ol Metafilter stripped out my html upon posting. C'est la vie, don't @ me. (Unless you're applying to be our Community Operations Manager, in which case please @ me!)"

I have cleaned up the HTML in the jobs post so it's less ugly now!

Made link clickable in this comment.

BlackLeotardFront: "Even so, I must say it reads better than yours!" Regardless of the provocation, it's best not to snipe at other users like this. (I know i'm not perfect about this either! Just, please make an effort?)

Folks, nothing deleted, and this isn't a thing that's really addressed in the guidelines as they currently stand, but: i really wish we could, as a community, move away from complaining about stuff like paywalls, video runtimes, and/or Javascript, especially early in a thread. It tends to pick up a bunch of flags and it not-infrequently derails the conversation entirely. If you can't access the links in a post on terms that are acceptable to you, it's okay to just not comment.

Anonymized post at user's request

Added USPolitics tag and added to the sidebar.

One deleted. Please attempt to answer the question or refrain from commenting/derailing in the thread.

One deleted, poster request.

One deleted, duplicate.

Fixed an issue with the post, at the poster's request.

Okay, i have talked to frimble and apparently there's some institutional knowledge that didn't get transmitted to me (and possibly to other mods as well). There are actually two separate things going on here, and i had been under the impression that they were the same thing: Adding the "USPolitics" tag to a post allows it to be hidden using the "hide US politics" toggle. However, adding a post to the sidebar and actually hiding it does have to be done manually. I'll bear this in mind going forward and make sure the rest of the mods know this as well.

One deleted. Please keep comments limited to answering OP’s question.

For the record: this should be happening automatically based on the tag these days; it should not require a manual setting by a mod anymore. And I'm seeing those two posts hidden when I log in with my normal account and toggle "hide US Politics". But out of an abundance of caution, I have also gone ahead and hidden them manually.

Made link clickable in this comment.

One comment deleted as noise.

Fixed typo in this comment and removed a comment that only existed to make the correction.

Again, folks, discussion about moderation needs to go to MetaTalk. We'll be deleting any further comments about it from here.

Folks, please do not get into a slapfight with each other in here.

Edited link in this comment to be clickable.

(Also, two deleted: one at the user's request, and the other because it was a reply to the deleted comment and became meaningless without it.)

beesbees: "So if the subject was about a Proctologist in Silicon Valley catering to billionaires, then you couldn't say "What a bunch of assholes"?" Well, just for starters, "assholes" isn't a gendered slur. It is not acceptable to call women "cunts" on MetaFilter. Even if the women are rich shitheads. Even if you're from a Commonwealth country. Even if you do it in a plausibly deniable way with some of the letters replaced with asterisks. It is just not something we're going to allow. If you would like us to change our guidelines and policies around misogynist slurs, that discussion belongs in MetaTalk.

Folks, i'm not going to leave a big hole in the thread with deletions but we are not gonna do jokey usage of misogynist slurs on MetaFilter, even if it's got some letters missing, and even if it's something where you can do the plausible-deniability "oh, but i meant the actual body part!" thing. Paul Slade, that wasn't acceptable; take a break from this thread and don't do this again.

Fixed a typo in the OP at user's request, and made link clickable in this comment.

One comment deleted with extreme prejudice. (Replies left up for context.) ianhorse, i'm giving you a day week off; next time you post transphobic or otherwise bigoted nonsense it will be a permaban. ** NOTE: Edited because i said "day" but meant "week", and that's the penalty that was applied.

Ungated link updated. Please carry on.

One deleted at user's request.

One deleted for not answering the question.

Fixed broken link in post.

One comment from Mr. Yuck has been removed. We have identified an ongoing pattern of posting graphic and disturbing personal anecdotes, despite prior moderator guidance on this issue. As a result, Mr. Yuck has been placed on an open-ended timeout and has been notified about it via email.

Fixed post title.

Fixed broken link in this comment.

One deleted. Let's be careful about suggesting that rapists are closet cases and hold off on speculating/suggesting that as the case.

Just a quick note, folks: there are, in fact, people on MetaFilter whose native languages have grammatical gender, and it'd be great if we could avoid casually insulting those languages.

One deleted at user's request.

One comment deleted. Describing a situation involving sexual assault and unsafe supervision in a care setting in a casual, storytelling manner that is not appropriate for a free thread. Content that includes or trivializes harm needs to be handled with care and posted, if at all, in the proper context with clear intent (like seeking advice or support). Additionally, disclosing the name of the victim can do more harm than good, please refrain from doing that. If you need guidance on handling such a situation, consider posting in a dedicated Ask MeFi thread looking for advice or seeking appropriate professional resources

Duplicate comment removed.

Just a note to please be kind to each other and ensure your answers are intended to help OP without making personal digs or insults. Comments leaning into berating OP will be deleted moving forward.

Fixed a typo in the post at the user's request.

Hi, folks. Nothing deleted, but please be cautious when responding to questions about people with disabilities; some of these answers are fairly aggressive in a way that can come across as dismissive or mean about someone with a disability.

One comment deleted. otherchaz, i assume you mean well, but that joke came across as pretty racist!

Made link in OP clickable.

Removed erroneous location and tags from post.

Fixed typo in this comment at user's request.

One answer deleted as inappropriate. "Do you have a religious faith? Can you become more involved in it?" is a reasonable potential answer, but you need to be careful about asserting that a specific faith will help; it comes across as an attempt to convert.

Fixed broken link in this comment.

Fixed link in this comment to be clickable.

One comment deleted at user's request.

Hey, folks, everything's going pretty okay in here so far; i just wanted to drop a note to ask you all to please exercise caution about (a) linking this to transness/trans-related issues (unless you yourself are trans) and (b) verging into body-shaming (including penis size shaming). Both of those things have an extremely high likelihood of causing this conversation to go completely off the rails, and i'd very much rather it didn't.

Fixed typo in this comment.

One deleted. Folks, even if you are answering the Asker's question it's very seldom that a question calls for rudeness to the Asker. I'm leaving some replies up for context.

Fixed a typo in this comment, at user's request, and deleted an extraneous comment about it.

Fixed link in original post (time scrubber was scrubbing to end).

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Okay I think that got it!

One deleted for not really answering the question (and additionally being hinky).

One comment edited in consultation with the user. In general, folks: it's okay to discuss the possibility that Graham was a closeted gay man, and even to mention the fact that some people called him "Lady G" if you're careful, but directly calling him "Lady G" is not something that's okay here. I understand that this isn't true of everyone, but a whole lot of queer folks regard it as homophobic. (Full disclosure: i'm one of them.)

One deleted. Let’s keep comments focused on the thread’s topic and refrain from making digs at users.

Added Bali tag and removed erroneous location (I can't get the Location field to pick up the correct location, sorry!)

That said, please do not tell members to "shut your bitch ass up" even if you use an abbreviation for plausible deniability. That is emphatically against the guidelines. I'm not going to override the earlier decision by a different mod to let it stand, but please do better in future, folks.

plagued out moggies: "Looks like we’ve had some comments deleted without mod notes?" No comments have been manually removed by moderators in this thread; one comment was automatically deleted because the user in question wiped their account. That's not normally a thing we highlight publicly, but i understand that people were (justifiably) confused about a comment disappearing with no note (i was confused myself, unti i logged into this acccount!) and i thought it wise to head off any derails or grar about it.

Fixed typo in Jessie Gender's name in this comment.

krisjohn: ""How Flock Cameras Wrongly Tracked Me for Days Over ‘Stolen’ Plates and Sent Police After Me", or "The Day I Became a Girls' School In Iran"" This comment seems to have upset some folks, but I confess that I'm not sure i'm seeing what people think is wrong with it? It reads to me as a salient point about the world's embrace of computer-aided surveillance systems which are implicated in both atrocities (and many others!) I absolutely might be missing something, so if anyone would like to flag-with-note or MeMail me, I'm happy to revisit.

Added Substack tag.

flabdablet, you're taking up a lot of space in this thread; please let it breathe a little bit.

Fixed broken link in this comment.

Fixed this comment at user's request.

One deleted at user's request, and a second comment deleted as a reply to the deleted one.

Removed redundant "more inside" from FPP at user's request.

Fixed wording in the original post.

Deleted my own post because it came from the wrong account. Dammit, i KNEW that was gonna happen sooner or later!

One more removed. What we're not gonna do is rate the attractiveness of folks who died by suicide.

Fixed typo in post, at user's request.

One deleted at user's request.

Several deleted. Folks, regardless of whether you think the original joke was sexist or not, mocking another user for calling it sexist isn't great. Also, discussion about moderation needs to be taken to the Contact Form or to MeTa, not left in the thread, even when you're upset.

One comment removed. Please try to be sensitive to context. Dropping a “you'll eat anything if you're hungry enough” joke into a thread that’s about women’s autonomy, captivity narratives, and sex ends up reading as dehumanizing toward women, even if that wasn’t the intent. In this context it treats sexual access to women’s bodies as a kind of generic need, which is objectifying and dated humour. Let's try to drop the derail and keep the focus on the ideas and history in the linked article instead.

Three comments removed. "Panties in a bunch" is indeed a sexist idiom, whether you mean it that way or not; please refrain from that one, thanks.