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One deleted. Please keep this thread on track. Let’s focus on uplifting Trans people, sharing accomplishments and achievements, etc. derails will be deleted.

One comment removed as requested.

The second comment by grokus has now been deleted. Folks were, rightfully, flagging it again today and I see no reason to keep such an offensive comment up. His original comment is still there, but as travelingthyme said, please let us know if deletions feel more productive .

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I've reached out to OP about a re-wording the post to address the feedback given in the comments, stay tuned.

I've reached out to OP about a re-wording the post to address the feedback given in the comments, stay tuned.

Comments left up for transparency, but if deletions feel more productive, please do let us know. The two users making Transphobic comments will be permanently banned and not let back in. This type of behavior is not allowed. Re-centering the conversation to share their Transphobic comments, de-centering Trans people who are impacted by this discussion most, and sealioning will never be tolerated. Guidelines for reference.

Note that OP uses gender-neutral pronouns to describe their friend. Please be considerate and respectful by respecting the pronouns provided instead of using "s/he" in your response.

One comment removed. Please avoid arguing with other members' responses and remember that Ask MetaFilter comments should address the main question being asked.

Title and part of the post removed as per OP's request above.

One comment deleted. Please avoid arguing with the OP, instead, please address the main question being asked.

Just a quick note to acknowledge that chmmr has apologized for making this post and there have been some flags and comments asking for this thread to be closed. After talking it over with the board, we’ve decided to keep the thread open. MetaTalk is here for the community to have the conversations it wants to have, and we feel that closing the thread would cut off a conversation that people clearly do want to have. Let’s try to keep this conversation productive and empathetic.

One deleted for noise.

Moved text below the fold as it was breaking the mobile display text wrap on the front page.

Removed a duplicate comment.

One comment removed. Please read the question carefully before commenting. As OP said: "But I do want more traffic and voices than FanFare's book section"

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Title fixed!

Fixed!

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After review by the Moderation Oversight Committee, the comments by cendawanita, gwint, and others have been reinstated.

Removed a trolling comment by cendawanita and a bunch of responses from gwint and others about the US and South Korea that was a derail. Please move on y'all. EDITED TO ADD: Those comments have been reinstated after a decision by the Moderation Oversight Committee--BB 10:23pm ET 3/4/2026

Hi, one comment has been removed, per the Content Policy, for not answering the question and posting a joke. Please remember that AskMetaFilter is more tightly moderated and comments need to answer the question being asked.

Hey, this is a general mod note to y'all to be careful with your analogies and how far you stretch them. It can cause a lot of derails and needlessly raise the temperature of the thread, so think'em through please!

One comment removed. Please refer to the AI Generated Content section of the Content Policy

A comment suggesting the pain may be in the OP's head has been removed.

Take people, especially women, at their word when they say they're in pain.

Hey falsedmitri, the link to that screenshot is borked. If you post it in the thread, I'll fix it in the post.

Hey prismatic7, Several of your comments have been removed, particularly the one saying "fuck you" and another using explicit violent language towards another member. Using that kind of invective against other members violates the Content Policy, hence the removal. If you keep making those types of comments, we will have to start issuing timeouts or bans. The situation sucks, yes, and you’re in the middle of it, which is terrible, you have our sympathies, but that’s zero reason to be abusive to other members of the site. Knock it off.

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One deleted for use of the r word. Feel free to re-write the comment without it.

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One deleted. Duplicate.